Is it time for “the conversation”?
How many of these indications of an unofficial relationship can you agree with? You don’t have to check off every box, but if you can identify with at least half of them, it’s a surefire indicator that your dating life has moved from casual to more serious.
Should you discuss it with someone? It truly depends on how bothered you are by the lack of a firm label. The sit-down “what are we” discussion is not necessarily necessary for a relationship to be strong.
In any case, not everyone feels the need for a label. It has to do with how you feel, how you interact with one another, and the limitations you set.
But you should talk about it if you want to be exclusive and you’re not sure whether the other person shares your views.
Keep it light to find your answers
When you have this chat, do it in a relaxed manner and without seeming overly serious. It is simple to terrify someone and get them to back off if they have a small amount of commitment anxiety or have had negative relationship experiences in the past.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look for the solutions you believe you need, though.
The length of your unofficial relationship will also determine when you have this chat. Wait a bit if it has only been a few weeks or a month.
At this time, avoid getting things serious by just trying to enjoy the excitement and butterflies without asking questions or identifying your dating preferences.
Pushing things too quickly in any relationship setting is the biggest mistake you can make in the beginning. We completely get your need for information because dating may be challenging. If you let it flow, it’s also entertaining.
Just let go of the anxiety while taking in the dates, secret glances, kisses, and overall happiness that may be completely wasted if you concentrate too much on what’s about to happen.
Without explicitly saying it, these unofficial dating warning signals are very good markers that your relationship is progressing toward formal and serious status. Embrace it!
