If there is one lesson that every kid should learn, it is that with time and work, they may improve in many different aspects of life.
Although it seems easy to believe, doing so has significant consequences.
The “growth mindset” is a concept popularized by psychologist Carol Dweck that refers to the idea that you may better yourself through effort rather than having fixed potential and ability.
Describe a development attitude.
Dweck claims that there are two main categories of individuals in the world: those who have a fixed mentality and those who have a growth mindset in her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.
Your place in the category may have a significant impact on the level of success you will achieve in life.
“When people are in a fixed mindset they believe their basic qualities, their talents, abilities, intelligence are just fixed traits, they have a certain amount and that’s it. When they’re in this mindset they often become concerned with how much they have. “If I do this will I look smart? Will I feel smart? Will people think I’m talented or not?”
“When people are in a growth mindset, they look at their talent and abilities as things that can be developed through hard work, good strategies, or help and input from others. They’re more willing to jump in, take a challenge, and roll with the punches because they’re not seeing everything as reflecting on their deep permanent ability.”
One of the most crucial indicators of life achievement is the development mentality.
So the issue is, how can you help your kids develop a development mindset?
Here are 7 essential pointers:
1. Don’t praise them for their intelligence or natural talent
The idea that “praising children’s brilliance undermines their motivation and it damages their performance” is one of the “clearest results,” according to Carl Dweck.
Why?
Carl Dweck contends that rewarding skill and intellect fosters a fixed worldview.
Despite the fact that youngsters “particularly love to be commended for their brains and talent…the minute they find a hitch, their confidence flies out the window and their drive hits rock bottom.” If success denotes intelligence, failure implies stupidity. The entrenched thinking is that.
Children start to fear not being brilliant as soon as they can judge themselves, according to Dweck.
“I’ve examined thousands of individuals, starting with toddlers, and it’s astounding how many pass up the chance to learn.”
So, what exactly should you congratulate?
According to Dweck, you should combine strategy, options, and effort.
This demonstrates to the youngster that improvement comes from hard effort rather than inherent talent.
“Remember that praising children’s intelligence or talent, tempting as it is, sends a fixed-mindset message. It makes their confidence and motivation more fragile. Instead, try to focus on the processes they used— their strategies, effort, or choices. Practice working the process praise into your interactions with your children.”
2. Tie the outcome to the effort
It’s a frequent myth that you should only praise your kids for their effort and not their accomplishments in order to encourage a development attitude in them.
Dweck, however, advises against ignoring the result. In fact, it’s crucial to share achievement with your kids as long as you can link it to your use of resources and tactics.
“It’s not “ignore the outcome,” it’s “tie it to the outcome.” Sometimes parents will say, “I’m so tempted to be happy when my child succeeds or masters something difficult but I know I shouldn’t,” and of course you should. Just tie it to the process, that what the child is supposed to learn is that a good process results in progress.”
