6. They gang up on you
You don’t want your family members around if they frequently collude against you or pick on you. Both within and outside of families, jealousy occurs. Family members should be nothing less than encouraging, so if they’re always attempting to make you feel inferior (particularly so they can feel superior to you), they’re not someone you should be around.
Both within and outside of families, jealousy occurs. After all, you may have far healthier relationships with your friends than you can with your dysfunctional family.
7. They use love as a control
Toxic family members are well aware that there is a fine line between affection and control. Either they are consciously aware of how they are misusing control as love, which is much more destructive, or they are not. It doesn’t assist you if they only show you love and support when you comply with their wishes.
You just get a distorted idea of what love is as a result. When no one else is available to love you unconditionally, family is meant to be there to do it for you. If they employ love as a tool, that causes far more harm than good.
8. They stir up trouble just to stir up trouble
People with toxic personalities dislike harmony. If a member of your family exists just to cause trouble, they are poisonous. They are not necessary in your life. A drama addict? Probably. A toxic family member is one who might cause difficulties in your life merely for the pleasure of causing trouble.
They could be bored or they might just wish to make your life miserable. The future? Family is about having a place to call home, therefore if a toxic family member is constantly robbing you of that comfort, it’s time to end the connection.
9. Nothing you ever do is good enough for them
Let the connection end if you have a toxic family member who constantly makes you feel unworthy despite your best efforts. Your connection with your mother, father, or even extended family should be based on acceptance and loving someone not despite but because of their flaws.
Even if they are relatives, you need to terminate relations if they consistently point out your flaws and weaknesses before your triumphs.
Despite your efforts to appear decent, these individuals will always point out your weaknesses, putting you down despite your efforts.
10. You experience mental, emotional, or physical abuse
Nothing is more evident than this. Don’t forget about emotional and mental abuse; it has just as big of an impact as physical violence. A toxic relationship is evident if the other person is continually attempting to control you, gaslight you, undermine your worth, completely silence you, ignore your feelings, or be possessive of you.
These are all indications of emotional abuse in that scenario. If you encounter any kind of abuse, you should never do so in front of your family since doing so might create a trauma that is hard to overcome.
