They aren’t over you yet.
They once loved you, and regrettably, love does not simply vanish when a relationship ends. Only time can mend wounds, so if you just broke up with someone, they could still be struggling to move on. Even though they rationally understand that they must have parted ways with you in the past, it’s possible that you remain the person they want to stay with them forever. If you were their best friend, they could be finding it difficult to go on without you. They are struggling forward just as much as you are.
They didn’t get enough closure.
They could still be looking for solutions. They require a clearer explanation because they don’t know what led to the split. They are attempting to identify their mistakes. They could even want to correct the situation and make it up to you. They wish to avoid leaving each other bitter. They’re attempting to remedy the wrongs. You don’t owe them anything, though. Cut connections with them entirely if you think that seeing them again would damage you. You don’t have to put your own mental health at risk in order to justify yourself to them or give them another opportunity. Eventually, they’ll leave, whether or not there is resolution.
Things are genuinely different now and they want to try again.
Perhaps there was a valid reason why your ex left. Perhaps they relocated across the nation and decided against attempting a long-distance romance. Or perhaps they were going through a difficult time and couldn’t give you their whole attention. In any case, it’s possible that they really did care about you. They might not have been able to offer you what you deserved in the past, but they can now meet your demands.
Remember, the only way getting back with your ex makes sense is if things really have changed. Otherwise, you’re only going to end up breaking each other’s hearts again.
That’s simply the way it is, so be sure to thoroughly consider your choice. Don’t start dating them again the moment they start to creep back. Consider whether you might benefit from this. Discuss the implications of getting back together with them. Even though it hurts temporarily, be sure you’re acting in your own best interests.
