Tantrums are a normal aspect of our kids’ development. We are all aware that the “terrible twos” are a genuine phenomenon after the kid reaches the age of two. Parents, you need not fear; I am here to assure you that the “terrible twos” actually continue for two years rather than just one. Yes, there is a “terrible twos” phase, but there is also a “threenager” phase, which is a hilarious moniker for the beautiful “terrible twos” second year.
I don’t know about the other parents out there, but I can tell you that I was really afraid that one of my son’s frequent temper tantrums might occur in public. the anxiety associated with not knowing where, when, or in front of whom that tantrum might occur. I started to ask myself some really practical questions, like: How would I respond if my son was throwing a fit in front of everyone? What kind of response to my child’s public outbursts is appropriate? Will I be assessed? Would my son’s terrible day be looked down upon? These worries are common among us; they are just normal! But as mothers, we must remember that we all have terrible days and refrain from passing judgment on one another when we observe another mother juggling a challenging toddler.
The “terrible twos” for my son officially began the day he turned two. On the morning of his second birthday, he had his two-year-old visit, and I can clearly recall our physician asking me if my kid had started throwing tantrums. Of course, I was telling the truth when I replied that he hadn’t begun throwing a fit, but man, did I curse myself. I went to the shop to pick up some last-minute party goodies for my son’s birthday after his doctor’s visit. As we hurried by the toy aisle in Target, something unexpected happened. My youngster collapsed in the center of the floor and started screaming and weeping. It was all my fault for not getting him the item he desired. Normally, I don’t give in easily when my kid is unhappy about something, but at that particular time, I was more than just humiliated by my son’s temper tantrum and almost caved. He started to throw a fit, and by the time I tried to pick him up, he had essentially transformed into a floppy noodle. I was fumbling with the cart, attempting to soothe my son and maintain my cool while I dealt with my first outburst in public. I’ve been telling myself to stop worrying about what other people will think of how I manage my son because every parent has been in this circumstance while I strive to react correctly.
I’ve included some advice below that has personally helped me deal with those challenging times when I’m out and about with a toddler who is throwing tantrums. I hope they also assist you!
Top 10 tips on how to handle public tantrums:
- IMPORTANT! Take a deep breath and try not to become upset or humiliated if your child is throwing a tantrum, parents.
- Do not give in to your toddler’s demands; instead, gently explain to them why some behaviors are inappropriate. If your toddler starts to misbehave while you are in a restaurant, do not just ignore them (we don’t want them to think that they can always get their way by throwing a fuss)! (You never know what other parents could be doing, like going out on a date or taking a short break from their own kids.) Take them to the bathroom, then gently converse with them.
- Take your kid outside, depending on where you are, and let them settle down before returning inside. (This generally allows my son to get some fresh air, and it works best for me.)
- Create a “codeword” that you may use to alert your toddler when they begin to misbehave depending on their age. giving them a “warning” or “strike one” to let them know that you have seen their bad behavior.
- I am a major supporter of keeping my son’s misbehavior or temper tantrums private. While I do correct him, I never humiliate him in front of others or in public… Additionally, my kid reacts better when I take him out of the environment where he is misbehaving and address the reprimands together.
- Let them cry it out if they need to sometimes. It is beneficial for kids to be aware of and understand their emotions as well as to learn how to deal with them. Leave them alone.
- occupy your youngster. Simply reroute them if they are unable to have or perform one item. For instance, “we can’t obtain this, so let’s choose something from over here instead,” or “we don’t toss something at people; we put it here.”
- If you anticipate a long day, be sure your youngster has slept or is able to snooze.
- Take care of them. Even while our young children are acting out, they may not completely comprehend why. So show them your affection, give them hugs, or even a food!
We all fear those out-in-public meltdowns, mainly out of concern for how other parents would react. So, keep in mind not to make the parent feel uncomfortable when you observe them struggle with a child throwing tantrums! Do not assume they are horrible parents right away. Toddlers have terrible days, and when they act out, the stress of the environment can occasionally make us parents feel stressed. You must maintain your composure, smile, and behave appropriately around your kid as a result. Regardless of who is “watching,” the stress of the circumstance and the surroundings make it difficult for us to give in to our toddler’s tantrum. We must maintain our composure! Prove to those parents that you are in complete control of the “terrible twos.” When you see another parent, nod and smile at them. Never forget to help one another out on this wild road! (Oh, and don’t let your kids see your frailty!)