Dos and Dont’s of Fighting in Front of Your Kids
- Don’t Involve the kids. Don’t engage them in any way, ask them for their opinion, or demand that they choose a side. They adore you both, so having to support one parent over the other may make you feel as if you let the other down. ideas of abandoning or offending the other parents come next. Never try to win an argument by undermining your partner’s authority as a parent in front of your children.
- Don’t fight about the kids in front of the kids. Arguments that directly concern your children (bad academic achievement, punishment techniques, disliking your child’s friends, etc.) shouldn’t take place in front of the children. To make sure that your kids don’t feel guilty or responsible for the issue, have these difficult parenting sessions in private.
- Do call a time-out if things are getting heated. Taking a moment to breathe helps conflicts keep under control, much as you could give a kid throwing a tantrum a little timeout to cool down and compose themselves. Ask if there is a suitable moment to stop talking before the argument escalates into a physical altercation. Set a time to reconnect, however, or you run the danger of making one or both people feel forgotten and irrelevant. As soon as folks aren’t as agitated, it’s considerably simpler to handle problems.
- Do listen with the goal of hearing and understanding the other person. Rather of waiting for a moment to speak, you should speak up now. We’ve all engaged in it. We have the one-liner or zinger that will end the conversation, but we are unable to hear and comprehend what our partner is saying. Active listening and effective communication strategies should be used instead of attempting to “win” the argument.
- Do seek resolution. Also, always let the children witness the outcome of any disputes you have in front of them. We often dispute and then work things out. Try to avoid leaving them on a cliffhanger. Your children will develop their own social and emotional skills that they may use in the future if you model effective dispute resolution.
Without disagreements or conflicts, it would be hard to live. This applies to colleagues, bosses, and other partnerships as well, not only marriages or other relationships between partners. Let’s prepare our children for their futures and maturity by teaching them how to have and resolve a quarrel along with how to correctly load the dishwasher and prepare a simple dinner.
Living in conflict or in peace might depend on one’s ability to handle challenging conversations with sensitivity and respect. What a wonderful gift to give our children for the future.