11. They don’t respect you
Since love and respect are closely related, it follows that if they don’t treat you with respect, they don’t love you either. Do they still disregard your viewpoints, step outside of your boundaries, or refuse to respect your boundaries?
All these qualities are not typical in a healthy family, which may be difficult for someone to believe if they have a toxic family member.
They will undoubtedly be harmful to your mental health and general wellbeing if they don’t appreciate you. Your family may not share all of your beliefs or opinions, but they should at least respect your right to individualism. What would be the point?
12. They harshly criticized you as a child
Beware of critiques that they misrepresent as humor. They may have criticized your weight or intelligence, but when you seem hurt, they’ll respond, “It was only a joke, lighten up.” Don’t ever buy this; not even for a second. It’s a typical gaslighting tactic. Even while correcting a youngster, no family member should ever be harsh with them.
You can politely explain to them why what they did was wrong, but avoid picking on their fears and weaknesses. They’ll become used to it as they get older, which explains why toxic family members are so destructive and resentful of others.
13. You were expected to be nothing less than perfect
Giving a young child a set of unreasonable expectations is definitely not natural. Perhaps they expect you to perform all the duties around the house or that you won’t ever have any poor grades.
If a family member demands perfection from you, it’s better to cut connections with them than to attempt to destroy yourself trying to meet an unachievable ideal since children are not supposed to bear a parent’s burden.
They are aware that you are not flawless. Why then are they expecting something from themselves that they are unable to provide?
14. They’re always right, and you don’t get a say
Your family should support your own development; hence, they shouldn’t push their preferences on a young person. For instance, they insist that you pursue this degree even though you have made it obvious that it is not what you desire. This is because it is their ambition and it pays well.
Simply said, this is poisonous, which gives opportunity for plenty of bitterness and wrath. You have the right to lead an independent life free from their dictates. Therefore, it gets intolerable and downright toxic when they can’t let you make your own judgments and errors without their influence.
15. They don’t care about your beliefs
Children with toxic family members are people pleasers for a reason because they are compelled to have the same false beliefs as their family. A toxic family is one in which you are treated poorly because of your beliefs, values, or ideals, regardless of whether they differ from those of your family.
Your family shouldn’t use the fact that they raised you as a defense every time you act in a different way since they don’t own you. Unconditional love must exist for a cause, right?
